Everyone has different ideas of what success looks like. For some it’s having a stable career, climbing the corporate ladder, owning a home, having a bunch of money. For other’s it’s creating a family, having a happy marriage, raising happy independent children. And for some it’s a hybrid of the two, or something totally different.
The point is, success looks different for everyone. But, when it comes to successful women, there are certain habits they all have, traits that lead them to be successful.
They may not have all of them at once, but they definitely have most of them and are at least working towards or attempting the others.
Think about the successful women you know and think about your own life and how you perceive your own success and see how many of these habits you have.
1 – They Don’t Take Life Too Seriously
Maybe you think that in order to be successful, you have to be serious all the time, but that’s not true at all! Successful women know how to balance the serious side of things with the fun and playful side of things, and know that it’s really the fun and playful that makes the serious worthwhile.
They also know when to be serious and when to have fun – an important lesson when creating success in your own life.
2 – They Believe In Themselves
They are their most fierce supporters and not only believe success is possible, they believe that it is possible for them. They back themselves and know that they can achieve anything they put their mind to.
3 – They Stand Up For What They Believe In
Successful women have opinions about life, the world, work and everything in between and they stand up for their beliefs. They know that not everyone is going to agree with them and they are totally fine with this (after all, they don’t agree with everyone so why should everyone agree with them?).
They are able to formulate their own opinions based on their own education, experiences and beliefs and they don’t blindly follow others.
4 – They Don’t Believe In Work/Life Balance
A successful woman laughs at the idea of a work/life balance, knowing that such a thing does not exist and is therefore unattainable. Instead, she focuses on being present fully when she is working and when she is in ‘life’ mode, and knows that her work forms part of her life and that she is able to be more successful in her work because of what she has experienced in her life. It’s not a balance, they are one.
5 – They Look After Their Health
A successful woman knows that if her health is out of whack, then the rest of her life is out of whack. She doesn’t believe that healthy means going to the gym every day or eating salad for every meal, instead she understands that a healthy life encompasses mind, body and soul and knows that she needs to nourish all of these areas of her life.
6 – They Ask Questions
A successful woman doesn’t expect herself to know or understand everything, and as such, isn’t afraid to ask questions when she wants to know more, seek clarification or to challenge a belief.
She doesn’t just take everything at face value, instead, she tries to learn as much as she can, understand the situations she is in and be part of the process, not just a spectator.
7 – They Are Financially Independent
Successful women don’t rely on anyone to control their financial lives for them. They are financially independent, in that they understand their financial situation, make informed and educated decisions about their finances and their bills are always paid on time.
They don’t have to be the breadwinner in the family, but she doesn’t sit back and allow anyone to control the finances completely without her understanding and input.
8 – They Have Life Goals (And Plans To Achieve Them)
A successful woman doesn’t live life reactively, they live it proactively. She has big goals for her life, but she knows that big goals require big plans to achieve them. So that’s exactly what she does.
She works towards her goals every day, even if they are small steps, but she knows one day she will achieve them.
9 – They Take (Calculated) Risks
A successful woman knows that life in the middle lane is not where success happens, and that she needs to take risks in order to create the life she wants to live.
But nor all risks are equal, and a successful woman knows that she needs to weigh up the risks she takes and make sure they serve her, her goals, and her life best.
10 – They Understand The Importance Of Relationships
This doesn’t mean romantic relationships, and it doesn’t exclude them either. A successful woman understands that most things in life come down to some form of relationship.
Whether it’s your marriage, your family, your working relationships or your friends – they are all relationships and all hold importance in your life in one way, shape or form.
These relationships need to be nurtured, and toxic versions of these relationships need to be cut off and a successful woman isn’t afraid to do either.
11 – They Practice Regular Self Care
You can’t conquer the world, or even conquer your day without filling your own cup first. A successful woman knows the importance of self-care, and knows that taking care of her self isn’t ‘selfish’ (even though being selfish is totally okay), it’s a basic need.
She doesn’t rely on anyone else to fill her cup or create her happiness, she knows what invigorates her, motivates her, and allows her to relax and includes them all in her life.
12 – They Return To A Positive Mindset
Everyone has negative moments, expecting you to always be positive would be crazy and unattainable. A successful woman is no different. She has bad days, she has days when she wants to scream and it feels like the world is against her. But, a successful woman always returns to a positive mindset.
She knows that the energy she puts out into the world comes back to her and that negativity is not the kind of energy she wants around.
13 – They Are Always Learning
A successful woman knows that there are so many things in life to learn, and that she doesn’t know everything about every topic. She is a keen learner, always striving to educate herself further.
From learning new recipes to cook through to gaining a deeper understanding of the world, a successful woman not only wants to learn, she loves to learn.
14 – They Are Self Aware
Awareness of self is a skill a successful woman has down pat. She knows when she is on the brink of burn out and how to reign herself back in. She knows when she is too stressed and needs time out. She knows that her behaviours are a reflection of her feelings and understands what they mean.
And, she doesn’t beat herself up over it. She doesn’t compare herself to others because she knows that she is the only version of herself and she continues to strive to be the best version she can be.
15 – They Stay Organized
Well, mostly. While she may not have Marie Kondo’d her home within an inch of its existence, she does have systems in place to stay organized to a level that allows success in her life.
Her bills are always paid on time, she knows what events are coming up in her calendar and she doesn’t leave deciding on what to cook for dinner until the last minute.
Regardless of what your version of success looks like, there are habits you form in order to attain and maintain that level of success. These are just some of the habits of successful women that you can see in others, and hopefully you can see in yourself too.